Wednesday, August 11, 2010

Mama's Got A Brand New Prompt.

I haven't been able to write as freely as I once could for some reason and a friend suggested that I leave the idea part of writing to someone else. So she sent me over to MamaKatsLosinit.com for some inspiration...So Here it goes.

Lou Holtz (don’t ask me who that is) once said, “life is ten percent what happens to you and ninety percent how you respond to it.” Do you believe this? Describe a time when you feel like you could have responded a different way and produced a different outcome.


I agree with Lou Holtz's statement.
Life is about choices and decisions based on those choiceless, sometimes random things that float into our lives and threaten to decide a course for us. Now if we do nothing and just let what happens to us, well, "happen" then we are not living our lives and that, to me, is the biggest offense to the whoevers and the whatevers that put you on this big blue marble.
That being said, how about a story?
Some years ago I was in a relationship (or rather I thought I was, he on the other hand, thought different). Well the relationship went south in a big way.
He left and three months later he was married to someone else.
It hurt, BAD.
The way I dealt with the emotions associated with the breakup are indicative of the amount of control I felt that I had over my life at the time and the amount of worth I placed on the person I was at the time.
I was angry and my way of dealing with it was not all productive and it really added undue drama and trauma to my life.
The truth is that what happened was pretty minor in the grand scheme of things (the dude wasn't the man for me by any stretch of the imagination and I was certainly not the woman for him) but my reaction to it amplified it beyond reason.
I would have healed faster and would have been more open to genuinely good people sooner had I reacted from a place of reason rather than emotion. I should have assessed why I would want such an individual in my life and recognized that focusing on such a train wreck of a relationship only trapped me in place, a bad place. In my case a 10% incident received a 90% reaction and caused 100% stagnation.
 I'd say Lou Holtz nailed it!
 
Happy Karma!
Us!

3 comments:

BLACK_LILLY said...

Its funny you wrote about this because my dad ALWAYS tells me those exact words. I can be a hot head at times and I can give countless examples of when I could have handled things differently. smh @ myself. guess I didn't need to get so pissed about making copies at work, or maybe i didn't have to drop f word so many times after a certain conversation. hmmmmm. thanks for giving me something to think about!

Jenners said...

Visiting from Mama Kats...

Been there, done that. It is so easy to look back and realize how ridiculous we were being, but in the heat of the moment, it isn't easy to see. I spent such a long time being hung up on a guy who wasn't not good for me in any way shape or form. Looking back, I can see that. But at the time, I couldn't see anything but him and how I "needed" him. I wasted so much time on that.

Tarunita said...

You talk like my mom....Loved your post :)
There have been no. of situations which would have made things different if i would have handled them in a different way

Pop over to my blog if you have a chance :)
http://dwivedi2326.blogspot.com/2010/08/i-miss-friend-you-use-to-be.html

Taru