Thursday, October 11, 2007

A Tiny Meme Taken From Don---

10 Things I like and Dislike about being in and out of love

10 Things I dig---
  • Pure and uninhibited sex that comes from mutual interest and respect. The dirty stuff that you always wanted to try but couldn't try til you found the right partner. Especially if you like it rough....(I'm just saying)
  • Beginning a discussion of my day from the point of view of a character I made up and having my lover indulge my fantasy...(this is HUGE for me, I'm pretty damn dramatic).
  • The glow that comes from connection. Knowing that you arent in it alone is good for the esteem.
  • Someone to take care of when the mood hits. This may just be me but I was raised to be a good and domestic Southern Girl and I sometimes can't help but dig up old markers in the DNA.
  • Having one person in the world who understands that a fight is temporary. I fight with acid sarcasm and knowing that I can vent without a person falling to pieces is one of the best things about being in Love with the right person.
  • Inside Jokes! I love having a little inside thing that is just ours that makes us giggle or grit our teeth at the same time.
  • Someone to cheer me up when I hit a low (which honestly isn't often)
  • Taking liberties with someone. You know how poking fun at them in way that had you both doubled over in laughter.
  • Having a man secure enough to accept flowers from a woman! (yeah, that's how I roll)
  • Sharing their BITCHING Book collection! (I used to dig a guy whose taste in books was exquisite!)
Ten Things I DONT dig
  • New and Fresh single-ness you feel with initial breakup
  • The desperation you act on to try to re-assemble the house of cards that was the relationship.
  • Realizing how careless you had been with your heart, home and/or wallet. That naive and defeated feeling that comes with the cool light of day that clears the cobwebs.
  • The prospect of starting all over with someone new
  • the absence of physical connection-the accidental daily touches. The sex (especially if it was good)
  • Handling the minutiae of closing the Chapter. The exchange of property and the issue of future boundaries
  • Controlling emotions, fits of rage or depression with no productive way to vent.
  • Seeing them with someone new. Watching them love another harder and deeper than they ever loved you.
  • Trying to assign or dodge blame. Once the depression ends the anger sets in and you just want to be right. Especially when you KNOW that you are indeed the one who IS right.
  • Watching all your freaky secrets leave with that person and having to rely on their discretion.
This has no science fiction in it really but it is a bit of a fantasy to enter into a new relationship and to exit an old one. Like walking through a liquid barrier that leads to or from what was or will be your destiny. It is another world that we enter when we flee or run toward a coupling of any sort. Think about the shift in rules that take place when we transition into something new. I like even when it hurts but I like it. To be honest I am an optimist. I believe that all things can be endured. I think that pain and love meet and if we are lucky the love leaves the most significant marker on our souls....Well that inst fair because some pain leaves a necessary mark, but I hope we can learn from the pain caused by the choices we make and the people we love whom we leave or who leave us. sigh I guess I did sneak a little bit of fantasy in there after all....
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6 comments:

Invisible Woman said...

Amen on part one, number one!

Femigog said...

Girl! I'm sayin!

Marcus Langford said...

I am a brotha that was married and divorced young...it took a lot out of me. My ex-wife are really good with each other nowadays, occasionally talking and having dinner with each other. But my present girlfriend and quite possibly my next wife, is the one that adds all of the joy in my life and I know for fact that she truly is the woman I want to spend my life with.

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Don said...

10 Things I dig---

I feel you on the good sex while being in love part.


I definitely can dig the self esteem of being in love

The inside jokes...lol

Femigog, why would you buy a dude some flowers. (now I'm just saying)

Ten Things I DONT dig

Realizing how careless you had been with your heart, home and/or wallet. That naive and defeated feeling that comes with the cool light of day that clears the cobwebs.


You aint never lied. Man, that ish hurts like hell.


Controlling emotions, fits of rage or depression with no productive way to vent.

I've been there myself


Seeing them with someone new. Watching them love another harder and deeper than they ever loved you.

Hmmm...maybe

What freaky secrets? LOL.

Femigog said...

Don! Dudes like to get flowers even if they dont admit it! You know you want some flowers! LOL

Oh I gots me some down south dirty secrets...hahahahaha

Sha Boogie said...

Wow. You ended and started with the truth! Preach!! Especially the person leaving with your freaky dekey secrets, ouch.